more of Dad's theories on dating

Ok listen kid, so you like someone but... they are chasing someone else, stop a minute don't freak. First of all your a kid, you don't really know what you want. Second your a kid, if you got what you wanted you wouldn't know what to do with it. Most importantly of all it's time to learn about planting the seed.

Things in this world don't have to happen at the speed we want them to, in fact they probably won't. You can't just walk up to someone and say I want you, let's get together and think it will work. Plant the seed. When you meet someone cool you plant the seed by being yourself, smart, funny, nice, artistic, complex, whatever it is you are. Then walk away, just walk awayyyyy. Leave it be, swing by occasionally and water the seed and maybe it will germinate. If it doesn't leave it alone you can't force it, like a hot house tomato (which are pretty unflavorful anyway). If it does start to break through the soil then you may give it a little attention, fertilize it, water it, and let it grow.

The do section is the easy part, the don't section is a lot harder although much more straight forward. Do not under any circumstances discuss the seed in public, don't stalk the intended on Facebook, If your seed isn't growing don't leave snide little notes, just let it go or if you must, complain to someone you can trust to keep their trap shut. Do not try to get invited to places you think they will be, with some sort of plan to make them jealous or help them see the "real" you. Leave them alone if they want to be with you, it will work itself out.

This information is important to you because, no one, and I mean no one wants to be smothered, and when your a kid, well, it's just the way you behave. You have to learn to remind yourself that both parties are their own people and will have to independently find their way to the same idea in order for the relationship to flourish. The seed may never grow and that's ok,it just wasn't meant to be. Most importantly of all remember, no matter what, I will always love you more then anyone else can!